it’s like being stuck between a rock and a hard place- if you invite them, you’re fishing for gifts. if you don’t, they might be offended they didn’t get an invite. invite whoever you want, regardless of their location, and it’s their choice how they act. for my wedding last year we had some out of town family decline the invite and not send a gift. it’s really up to them.
How far out of town? An hour or two would be acceptable. If they live farther away than that I would send a birth announcement instead of a shower invitation.
It depends on how often you are on contact with them. If you talk to them on a regular basis and are close with them, then no it is fine. If you only exchange Christmas cards etc. then it appears you are fishing for a gift.
If you are not in close contact with them, the more appropriate thing to do is wait until the baby is born, then send out birth announcements. Then these relatives can do one of two things:
1. Receive the announcement and are informed of the new family member and that is that; or
2. Receive the announcement and make the decision if they would like to send a gift
well if you really want them there, you could tell the out of town relatives that they don’t have to bring a gift and that you just want them to be there with you
Inviting ANYBODY to a baby shower is fishing for gifts.
I can’t think of anything ruder, or less fun, for that matter, than a baby shower. The whole concept was invented by Satan.
Comments on Is is ok to invite out-of-town relatives to a baby shower or does it look like you’re fishing for gifts?
Parker
it’s like being stuck between a rock and a hard place- if you invite them, you’re fishing for gifts. if you don’t, they might be offended they didn’t get an invite. invite whoever you want, regardless of their location, and it’s their choice how they act. for my wedding last year we had some out of town family decline the invite and not send a gift. it’s really up to them.
Sage
How far out of town? An hour or two would be acceptable. If they live farther away than that I would send a birth announcement instead of a shower invitation.
Brody
in argument after.. if you did you would be called for fishing for gifts, then if you didnt you would be called for not inviting them! you cant win!
Omar
It depends on how often you are on contact with them. If you talk to them on a regular basis and are close with them, then no it is fine. If you only exchange Christmas cards etc. then it appears you are fishing for a gift.
If you are not in close contact with them, the more appropriate thing to do is wait until the baby is born, then send out birth announcements. Then these relatives can do one of two things:
1. Receive the announcement and are informed of the new family member and that is that; or
2. Receive the announcement and make the decision if they would like to send a gift
Wilson
well if you really want them there, you could tell the out of town relatives that they don’t have to bring a gift and that you just want them to be there with you
Allyssa
Inviting ANYBODY to a baby shower is fishing for gifts.
I can’t think of anything ruder, or less fun, for that matter, than a baby shower. The whole concept was invented by Satan.
Dennis
Invite them if you want to see them. How they choose to interpret that is out of your control.