February 17, 2010
Help! What to gifts to get for someone’s wedding/baby shower?
My sister is getting married next month, and I don’t know what to get her because of the unique circumstances.
This is her third wedding, and I’ve already gotten her some expensive crystal and some flatware, but I’m kind of tired of giving her stuff, since she keeps getting divorced.
Also, she’s marrying my ex-husband, whom she met at my wedding in 2007. They were sneaking around behind my back for year before I found out about it. I wouldn’t have found out at all, except the b@stard knocked her up, so it was kind of hard to miss. Now they’re expecting triplets because of the IV therapy, and I have to throw them a shower before the wedding.
So I’m wondering if I can get them one gift for both occasions or if I have to get them separate wedding and baby shower gifts. And do I have to get them three baby gifts?
Are there any special themes for third weddings like there are for anniversaries, like “paper anniversary?”
I almost forgot. It’s June wedding, if that changes anything. And do you think I should pay for the bridesmaid dress? I don’t think she should expect me to pay for yet another bridesmaid dress. That’s just tacky.
EDIT: Oops! I mean IVF!
Josiah
Comments on Help! What to gifts to get for someone’s wedding/baby shower?
Andy
Paying for your third bridesmaid dress is tacky!? Isnt your sister marrying your ex-husband and now having triplets to your ex-husband tacky!?
I would not be her bridesmaid let alone still be talking to her!!
Zoe
If you gave her gifts for the first two weddings . . . then no, I don’t think it is necessary to give her gifts (or host a bridal shower) for the third wedding.
As for the baby shower? Buy diapers. Buy baby wipes. Buy diapers. No need to get three separate baby gifts. Just buy diapers.
As for the bridesmaid’s dress? I tend to think bride should pay for it . . . especially if you bought and paid for bridesmaid dresses for the first two weddings.
If this is the very first time you’ve been her bridesmaid, then I think you should pay for the gown without complaint. But if this is not the first time you’ve been her bridesmaid, then I think she should pay for the dress . . . or at the very least, offer to split the cost with you.
Marin
Girlfriend? Hello? Remember that trip you need to take come June? Yep, that means you will be gone and UNAVAILABLE! You narcisistic, spoiled sister can get married without you there. No gifts are needed. I’m sure you will be stuck babysitting after so don’t worry about Pi$$iing her off. Find your backbone and thumb your nose at this union. Damn!
Scarlet
Re-gift something that you got for your own wedding…make it something you know your ex always despised too.Like the diamonte toast rack or the Japanese speaking tea maker alarm clock that always over boiled and scalded him awake.
As for the brats…get them some remedial learning software…with a note to say that with the gene pool from whence they sprang…you’re pretty sure this will come in handy for the little retards.
Oh…and re: the bridesmaid dress?
I’d wear a leather micro mini, thigh high boots and fishnets…so that you’ll be able to re-use the outfit later.That way it’s money well spent…and the bonus is…you’re bound to score with ther groomsmen in that outfit.
Zion
For a bridal shower, you get something from the couple’s registry. For a baby shower, you get something they need.
In that situation, I wouldn’t even bother getting them anything. You are not required to throw her a shower. Someone else can do it.
Kaliyah
Check this out for a start. Good luck!
Mariano
This cant be serious!! Let me get this right, your sister is pregnant and engaged to YOUR ex husband who under any other circumstances would be off limits. They were sneaky about this whole thing. Now you HAVE to throw her a shower. You have more loyalty to her than she does to you. WHY? I’d throw her out of a window before throwing her a shower.
But, since you want to do this-3 shower gifts for the 3 babies by your ex husband. I wedding gift (which I’d suggest fresh poo in a pretty gift box)for the wedding and if your going to be in this wedding..willingly? its up to you…buy the dress or make her buy the dress. Or don’t throw the shower and use that money to buy the dress. Show up at the wedding after you slept the night before in the bridesmaids dress with old makeup, funky breath and matted hair. Use a dead floral bouquet to accent it all. I know youre a woman…but you have to grow a pair….your sister are larger than your exhusband and her soon to be husband. Boy does she have big ones to even expect you to do any of this. She should loan them to you. You must have been walked over all your life by your sister.
This is the craziest situation in the world.